Term Paper
Acculturation = Gap!?
Mengyuan You
Enculturation, Immigration, Acculturation, Fall 2015
Professor Glen Milstein, Ph.D.
The City College of the University of New York
Due Date: December 14, 2015
Words: 2560

Are you an immigrant? If yes, what is your migration story and have you ever wonder to be an immigrant? If no, are you the expert of immigrant? If yes, did you ever ask your parents to tell you their stories and the reason why they immigrated? If no, did you know someone who is an immigrant? If yes, please ask him/her to share his/her story with you. If no, then do not worry, you will find out the answer through Meng and Hong’s migration experiences.
In Meng’s family, Meng lives with her parents, Ying and Qiang. Meng is an 18-years-old teenager who migrated to the United States at age eight. Her father, Qiang, left the family and came to the Unites States when she was three-years-old. Additionally, in Hong’s family, Hong lives with her parents, Jiao and Chong. Hong is a 19-years-old teenager. Her father, Chong, left the family and came to the United States when Hone was four-years-old. At age 15, Hong and her mother had migrated to the United States and moved in with her father. What, in Meng and Hong’s migration experiences and developmental stages, can help explain why two cousins from same background undergo different life trajectory?
Early developmental stages may affect one’s relationship with other. Both Meng and Hong was born in a coastal city and lived with their mother. At age three, Meng was at the beginning of Play Age. At the same time, Hong was four-years-old. Both of them were at Play Age stage, their counter-players were basic family. Parents at this time plays the primary role within the child’s life and the interaction between parents and child can influence succeeding relationship between parent and child (Milstein, G., & Lucic, L, 2004, p.26). Qiang’s choice of social selection suppose caused him to be absent as being part of Meng’s counter-player; however, he still counts as a counter-player in Meng’s developmental stages through different ways, such as making phone calls and facetime with Meng (Guarnaccia, 1997, p.72 via Erikson & Erikson, 1997, p.32). Facetime is the time spent being filmed or photographed by the media, which means a video call. In addition, Chong’s choice of social selection caused him to be absent as being part of Hong’s counter-player (Guarnaccia, 1997, p.72 via Erikson & Erikson, 1997, p.32). Counter-players play an important role in the development of soma, as Erikson described in the Psychosocial Development Stages chart, and each developmental stage has different range of counter-players (Erikson & Erikson, 1997, p.32-33). At young age, Hong did talk with her father on the phone; however, as Hong grew up, the counter-players around Hone changes. Her counter-players were no longer basic family; Hong started to spend more time with her friends than her family. Slowly, Hong was detached from her father during her School Age stage and Adolescence stage (Erikson & Erikson, 1997, p.32). Therefore, both Meng and Hong’s early development contributed to their relation with parents.
The factors of immigration vary. In Meng’s family, Meng was born in a coastal city and lived with her mother. According to Guarnaccia’s idea of social selection (1997), Meng was pulled to the United States because she misses her father and she wanted the family to reunite (p.72). Even though Meng facetime with her father every week, she still wanted to see her father face to face. According to Erikson’s developmental stages, Meng’s will to reunite the family was fully developed in her Early Childhood stage and the purpose of migration has developed in her Play Age stage (p.108). Meng’s will was part of the reason for the migration. The economic hardship in the family pushed their family to migrate (Guarnaccia, 1997, p.72). Although Meng’s will and the economic hardship of the family contributed to the migration of the family, Meng was more pulled to the United States than the pushed to migrate. Another type of example was Hong’s family. Hong came to the United States at age 15. Hong was born in the same coastal city as Meng and they lived together before immigration. Hong live in the city for fifteen years, and She