In order to harvest a one was first know God and what marriage represents. It is vitally important to be saved as you cannot love your spouse with the love if God when you haven\'t experienced the love if God firsthand for yourself. God is love and therefore the ultimate teacher on love. When we enter into a sincere and purposeful relationship with Him, we can truly understand what the term agape love means. Agape love is the love that God has for us. It is unconconditional love. It is not based on what we do or do not do, say or neglect go say, our actions or failure to act. This agape love is,not temporal it emotional either. It just is. Agape love is,required for a healthy marriage, but can only be obtained through knowing the Father for yourself, both personally and intimately.