Love

I have been wondering what real love is since I was a kid. I read lots of books, watched hundreds of movies and TV shows about love; I’ve seen lots of people in love, loved and loving, until I developed a definition of this phenomenon suitable for me. Millions of books, songs and plays were written, numerous movies were filmed about different kinds and aspects of this condition. The contemporary world seems to be gone mad on the topic of love. Love has become an object for sale, a social attribute that is prestigious to have.

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Nowadays the advertising specialists say that talking about love is one of the best promotional strategies that exist in our times. When I first heard about it, I was resentful, but then I begun to notice the quantity of references advertisements have towards love. Marketing specialists explain this tendency by the fact that people got used to the fact that every existing social attribute may be bought for the money. Thus when they fail to receive the candid and strong feelings from the desired object even after buying all the attributes that, according to the advertisements, are going to provide them love, the strong feeling of incomprehension and anger arise in their souls.

I agree with the statement that contemporary’s person understanding of love is built on the facts he/she got from reading the books, watching movies and TV shows, and, of course, the advertisements. After analyzing movies seen, and books read I reached a conclusion that in most of contemporary literature and cinema love is depicted as an exchange of goods, when the emotions are given only in return to the other emotions or some other goods. This distorted view of love leads to the numerous misunderstandings and disappointments.

In fact the forms of `love` depicted there are really just forms of egocentric desire, possessiveness and manipulation of another to satisfy one’s own lack, needs and wants without taking care of the object of this «love».

Let’s, for example, recall the plot of the «Pretty Woman», a movie where Richard Gere and Julia Roberts starred. The relationship between the protagonists, a prostitute, and a successful businessman started as the exchange of goods relationship: he gave her the money; she gave him the illusion that he was loved. In the end of the movie Gere’s protagonist tries to continue this kind of relationship, as he likes the girl very much, but the Robert’s protagonist understands it’s impossible. She feels she can’t agree to this kind of «love». The end of the movie is happy, as the businessman also comes to the realization of this fact, and he understands his feelings towards the woman are so strong that he is ready to provide her unconditional love despite of her past, and of the society’s opinion about it.

Unfortunately, in the reality the «goods exchange love» rarely grows in something like that. It’s very hard for the contemporary people to come to the notion that the only real love is unconditional one, the one depicted in Homer’s “Odyssey”. Odyssey did not expect to get anything from Penelope, he just wanted to come back home to her, to be with her. When he came back his wife was in her fortieth, and, Odyssey who was the lord of Ithaca, could have any young and beautiful women. Nevertheless, he came back to be with his wife, woman he loved despite of her wrinkles, the mother of his son, who gave him the power to come through all the hardships to come back home.

I understand that this concept is very hard to grasp for contemporary people who grew up in the society were individualism and egoism is appreciated. Most of us are not ready to accepting the concept of caring more for the other person than for himself/herself. I think it is the contemporary image of love created by the society and the media that doesn’t allow people to have a happy and fulfilling relationship.

One of the brightest examples of the impact of literature on the perception of the notion of love is the Shakespeare’s tragedy «Romeo and Juliet.» This play describes the relationship among two young people that care only for the emotions they experience,