Juliet has a strained relationship with her mother, who loves her but is rather distant. It is the Nurse who has brought Juliet up, having been her wet-nurse and then her Nanny and continues to be employed by the Capulets in this capacity. It is no surprise, then, that Juliet finds the Nurse much more mother-like than her own mother.

Her father is more interested in seeing that she marries well and soon rather than her personal happiness. He tells Paris that although she is "free to choose" her own mate, it must be from a narrow pool that he has approved of, and what\'s more, he has already selected Paris. He sees no reason why his daughter would object.

In 3.5, Lady Capulet believes Juliet is weeping for Tybault. She is suprised by the reaction and more or less tells her to get over it, she looks stupid. Not exactly a kind response! (Not to mention off-base.)

She says:

"Evermore weeping for your cousin\'s death?
What wilt thou wash him from his grave with tears?
And if thou couldst, thou couldnst not make him live.
Therefore have done: some grief show much of love,
But much of grief shows stills some want of wit." (3.5.70-73)

Her refusal to marry Paris meets with anger, not understanding. She sees no reason why such a match would not "happily make thee a joyful bride," but when Juliet protests, Lady Capulet exasperatedly tells her that she\'d better take it up with her father: "Here comes your father now, tell him so yourself / And see how he will take it at your hands" (3.5.124-125).

She doesn\'t truly side with anyone, but it is clear she is not much on her daughter\'s side.

The loyalty that Romeo and Juliet feel toward their parents lies at the root of their dilemma. It\'s called filial duty. In the medieval world of Verona, as well as in Elizabethan England, this duty was more than just being respectful and doing chores around the house. Parents, and fathers in particular, were entirely in charge of their children. There was generally no room for debate, especially for daughters.

Accordingly, Juliet is extremely respectful toward her parents. When her mother first broaches the subject of a marriage to Paris, Juliet makes an obliging reply, though she is not really interested in getting married. She doesn\'t want to contradict her mother. So, she doesn\'t say no.


Juliet I\'ll look to like, if looking liking move;
But no more deep will I endart mine eye
Than your consent gives strength to make it fly.
(1.3.98-100)

Juliet not only says she will try to like Paris, but further emphasizes her filial duty by saying she won\'t look at anyone that her parents have not approved of.

Falling in love with Romeo, then, is a clear departure for this obedient young woman. And she knows it. She is certain that the relationship with Romeo and the duty she owes her family are incompatible. She immediately realizes that one of them ? she or Romeo ? would have to disassociate from their household to make this union work

Themes-

Hastiness- Romeo is hasty to fall in and out of love. The two are too hasty to get married; they never thought about what could go wrong.
Infatuation- Romeo and Juliet, in all probability, were not really in love. They were infatuated with each other. They were in love with the idea that they were in love. They could not have fallen so deeply in love with only one conversation.
Selfishness- Everyone in this play (except Benvolio) acts selfishly. Juliet never told her parents about Romeo and did the selfish act of faking her death, which greatly upset them. The Capulets were selfish for making Juliet marry a man that she did not love. Both of the families were selfish for continuing the fighting. Friar Lawrence ran away when they saw the two families go into the tomb. He wanted to prevent himself from getting in trouble. Tybalt was selfish for killing Mercutio. Romeo was not thinking of Juliet as he killed her cousin.
Key Issues

Feuding- The feuding of the families was the whole reason for the tragedy. They should have reconciled their differences years ago. They didn\'t even know what they were fighting about.
Stereotypes-Some members of the Capulets and Montagues have never even met and yet they hate each other. Why? Because of a person\'s last name.
Dreams- The whole story had occurred