The Stone Diaries


In the books Diana: Her True Story by Andrew Morton and The Stone Diaries by Carol Shields, Daisy and Diana are the main characters. Both Daisy and Diana lacked a true mother figure as they were growing up and this had an effect on the way that they raised their own children. Both Daisy and Diana tried to conform to the socially constructed role of the mother, and tried to give their children everything that they possibly could. Without very much help from their husbands, both Daisy and Diana tried their hardest to bring their children the best in life.
Both Daisy and Diana lacked a true mother figure in their lives. Daisy's mother, Mercy, died when she gave birth to Daisy. Daisy was an unexpected child and right after giving birth to her, Mercy died on the kitchen floor. "Silent and still as a boat, a stranger in the world for all her life, who has given her child the last of her breath." (Shields, 40) After her mother's death, Daisy was put in the care of a neighbor, Clarentine Flett. However, Clarentine, too died when Daisy was a young child. Clarentine "entered a state of unconsciousness the moment the dreadful accident occurred . . . "(Shields, 55) Clarentine loved Daisy "as if she were her own child." (Shields, 55) Clarentine acted as a replacement for Mercy until Daisy was 11 years old, however, this was still a young age for Daisy to not have a mother. Daisy did not have a chance to learn how to be a woman and to learn the ways of motherhood from example. Daisy had to teach herself the ways of a woman as her father was the only person she had to use as an example.
Diana also lost her mother at a young age. Diana's parents got divorced when she was only six years old. "The biggest disruption was when Mummy decided to leg it" (Morton, 33) This had a great impact on Diana as a child and she was left in her father's care. Diana's father did remarry, however, Diana and the other children in the family did not like their stepmother, Raine. "We didn't like her one bit." (Morton, 129) Diana rarely saw her real mother and did not want to listen to anything that Raine told her. This caused Diana to grow up without a real mother figure in her life. She had to teach herself how to be a lady and how to care for others. She never had a role model to show her how to do this. Both Daisy and Diana lacked a true role model for motherhood and had to learn these skills on their own through experience.
When Diana became a mother to prince William, she was fighting to maintain her duties as a princess and trying to be a good and caring mother at the same time. Diana had some experience in caring for children as she was a nanny in her younger years for various friends of her family. "I was sent out to all sorts of people from my sisters-their friends were producing rapidly."(Morton, 43) Diana acquired some skills on motherhood through these jobs but never had true experience until she had her own children. When Diana had Prince William and shortly after, Prince Harry, she was concerned with their happiness more than anything else in the world. She loved them so much and would do anything to make them content. She tried to make time for them in her busy schedule to see them and take them places whenever she could. "She lavished William and Harry with love, cuddles and affection . . . she loved them unconditionally and absolutely." (Morton, 260) William and Harry provided Diana with a sense of stability and sanity in her busy life.
When the talk of divorce between Diana and Charles was in the air, the thing that bothered Diana the most was the risk of losing her children. "She was terrified that the family was going to take the children away." (Morton, 315) When the children did have to go and see their father, Diana "missed her children badly, particularly on traditional times of family celebration." (Morton, 329) Diana's children were the most important thing in her life. They brought her happiness and assurance that some things in her life were